What the Heck is Success?

Success. Such a loaded word, with so many different meanings. What does success mean to you?

Google defines success as ‘the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.’ Today, the vast majority of the first world defines success as ‘what you do.’

The hire paying job or the more powerful your position, the more ‘successful’ you are perceived. The more glamorous the work you do and the more material things you own, the more ‘successful’ you appear. But does all of this really mean success?  What do you think?

If you go to a party and you’re meeting someone for the first time, you will probably be asked, ‘What do you do?’ How many times have you met someone and asked in the first few minutes of your conversation, ‘What do you do?’ and how many times have you judged someone based on their answer?

If that person happens to say they are taking time off, we immediately start to question in our mind, ‘What’s happened? Why do they need time off? What are they going through’ We immediately resort to something negative and just can’t understand how anyone could just be ‘taking time off.’

Three-hundred years ago people identified themselves by where they came from or where their families came from. Now, our identities are bound up in our work. 

We’re pushed to succeed. We’re told as young children that we can do ANYTHING. But, we can’t do anything. We can try and try and whether or not we succeed is based on our persistence, dedication and flat out skill. I wanted to be a singer when I was growing up, but I can’t sing, and I will never be able to sing. That’s a fact. But, I love public speaking and helping people so I am focusing on being a personal development coach and the best one I can be. 

We should be encouraging children and adults to hone in on what they are good at. Focus on the ‘one thing’ that you do well and do it better, become an expert. Become the master of your craft. Be like a postage stamp and stick to one thing until you get there. 

We live in a society of multi-taskers. We do ten different things at once and inevitably do none of them well, because we can’t. It is physically impossible to do two things at once to the best of your ability. When you are driving and texting, you are not paying full attention to the road and there are thousands of accidents because of this. We think we can do more than we are actually wired to do. 

Can you think of the last time you were on the phone with a friend, watching television and eating dinner at the same time? Multitasking is really just the opportunity to screw up more than one thing at a time.

If you want to see greater results in your personal life, professional life, finances or spiritual life, focus on one thing. 

Whats the one thing I can do to ensure I hit my goals?

Whats the one thing I can do to improve my skills?

Whats the one thing I can do to be a better parent or partner?

Whats the one thing I can do to help others?

You may be thinking at this moment and wondering what your one thing is. And I urge you to really think about it, think about the one thing that matters the most to you that will get you the results you want. And if you can’t thing of the one thing, then that’s your one thing.