10 Ways to Stop Taking Things Personally

We take ourselves way too seriously. We allow ourselves to get bound up in things that are insignificant in the grander scheme of things. A person cuts you off on the way to work and it ruins your whole day, or the stranger in front of you at the coffee shop grabs the last croissant and you curse them on the way out. We get upset with our partners for not raking the rubbish out, or let our lazy co-worker get under our skin. We must remember, we can't change anyone, we can only change ourselves. We can live a life where other people dictate our feelings, or we can be the ones in control.

Here are ten ways to get out of your head and snap back into the present.

1. Tell yourself to get over yourself.

Remind yourself that it's not about you and tell yourself, out loud and in the mirror to get over yourself. Put a post-it note on your computer at work or leave a reminder on your phone. Just remember, it's not about you.

2. Think about the size of the universe.

We are but a speck in the grand scale of space and time, but so often we think that we are larger than life. Think about how enormous the universe is and the universe outside of that universe, and then think about where you are to put it all into perspective.

3. Make a farting noise with your mouth.

When we get so caught up in our own negativity, sometimes all it takes is just a small trigger to break our state. Try making a farting noise with your mouth the next time you get too much in your own head.

4. Dance.

Dancing is good for the soul. The next time your monkey mind starts to run a muck, just stop, and dance.

5. Allow yourself to make mistakes.

You are only human and you will always make mistakes. By allowing yourself to make mistakes and by understanding they're inevitable, you'll make it a lot easier on yourself to do so.

6. What you focus on is what you get.

You are in control of what you focus on. When you all of a sudden see countless Volkswagons on the road, it's not because there are so many, it's because you just purchased one. When you focus on the good stuff, that's what you'll see.

7. Laugh.

It's almost impossible to be in a bad mood when you laugh. Fake it, until you make it.

8. Take deep breaths.

We can often forget how grounding and calming the breath can be. When you feel flustered or upset, stop and take three long breaths inhaling and exhaling through your nose. One the last breath, let out a loud sigh to really seal the deal.

9. Tell someone you love them.

Love is all you need. When you stop making it about you and tell someone you love them it helps calm you down and get back in touch with what matters most.

10. Remember that the way you perceive the world is not actually what is.

Our map is not the territory. How we perceive the world is not actually what is. Reminding yourself that everyone has their own perception of reality gets you thinking more about where we're coming from, as well as others.